COLIBRI MANIFESTO  

 

Launched by Colibri Federation on June 1st, 2013

Sign HERE if you want to support our cause

 

Women and men are made to complement each other, and more importantly, children need both parents. 

Millions of women, be they grandmothers, sisters, mothers, aunts and wives, have suffered the loss of children they love and care deeply about as a result of misguided laws and family court practices. Millions of men, be they grandfathers, brothers, fathers, uncles and husbands, have suffered the loss of children they love and care deeply about as a result of misguided laws and family court practices. Millions of children be they daughters or sons, have silently suffered the loss of one of their parents. 

It is our aim to change this system that each year unjustly removes millions of children from the arms of one loving parent. We ask for your support by signing the statement below. The next step is inviting your friends and family members to do the same. 

The Statement 

"The lack of legislation to support and encourage the Shared Parenting (called also joint physical custody or joint custody with alternating residence) is an issue which knows no bounds. It affects families from all countries, regardless how poor or how wealthy they are. It affects annually millions of children regardless of race, ethnicity or gender. The issue transcends all demographics and is widespread across Europe. 

Children benefit most from the active involvement of both parents regardless of their marital status. The undersigned recognize that absent issues of abuse, neglect or abandonment, government policy and laws must be structured in such a way as to maximize the opportunity of all parents to contribute to the social, emotional, intellectual, physical, moral and spiritual development of their children. 

A growing number of children are being raised without the benefit of meaningful engagement with both parents. As contemporary research conclusively demonstrates, a child who effectively loses one of his or her parents through a custody decision, usually the father, is a child at risk for a number of negative personal and social outcomes. But this issue affects also many mothers.

Research also proves that, although children want a relationship with both their parents regardless of marital status, healthy bonding with a non-residential parent is impossible without a substantial amount of time spent in that parent’ s physical presence. 

Consequently, Colibri is sending our elected representatives, the judiciary and policy-makers the clear message that substantive changes in family law must be implemented: changes that will ensure children the opportunity to remain fully engaged with both their parents into adulthood. 

The people endorsing this statement know that not all children can have full access to both parents, and we know that not all parents are fit to raise their children. But we also know that far too many good, willing and fit parents are pushed to the margins of their children’s lives by unfriendly family courts, government policies and laws that undermine family integrity and autonomy. 

We invite people regardless their gender to sign this petition. It should be alarming to women everywhere to know, as they look at their son's, there is a significant likelihood that the authorities will turn him into a visitor to his own children, in the event he no longer resides with his kids' mother.

Parental separation should not spell the end of a relationship between a child and one of its parents. Forced separation from one’s own flesh and blood in the absence of abuse is morally wrong and socially irresponsible. That is why we supports equally shared parenting (joint physical custody) as the default arrangement for separating parents of minor children."